The Monkey and Josh-O are sleeping in her little twin bed. She moves. Nuzzles into his chest. Smacks her lips a few times. I giggle to myself. Such a funny sight.
They’re deep in sleep. They don’t know I’m there.
I come back down here to the Rascal. He’s making that hilarious fish face again because he’s hungry. He’s always hungry. Ravenous. Ravenous little creature. I whip out the boooobie for half a second, and he’s out. Like a light.
I’m sitting in front of the TV. Iron Chef America is on. Kat Cora’s going to win. I know because I’ve seen this one.
Oh, and I’m writing this post.
Tonight, while Josh-O and the Monkey slept in her little bed, I watched the movie Shopgirl. You know, the one with Steve Martin and Claire Danes? Who knew they’d have such a captivating chemistry?

I have to tell you, it’s been SO LONG since I’ve sat through a movie and ACTUALLY watched it. I mean, without reading blogs or gossip or running around (as I tend to do) getting little things done. For some reason, this movie gripped me from start to finish. I, like, hung on every word.
I’ve always been fascinated by the human condition. And, most people are, right? I mean, I know there are some people who go through life not thinking about why ON EARTH we’re here. And, sometimes I wish I were one of those people. Would make life a little less dark sometimes. But, if I were one of those people, I probably wouldn’t appreciate life and thoughts and art and ideas and little films with big thoughts as much as I do.
Shopgirl is all about the human condition. It’s about our desire, our NEED, for connection, and the effects the connections we make have on our life’s path. We are who we are, in other words, because of the connections we make. One little phrase — like, when Mirabelle tells Jeremy to “change things” (I can’t remember the exact phrase, my bad) — can alter the entire course of a person’s life.
I wish I’d picked up Steve Martin’s book Shopgirl (on which the movie is based) before watching the movie. But, I LOVED Claire Danes’ performance of Mirabelle Buttersfield. She was brilliantly sad and vexed and hopeful and thoughtful and vulnerable and beautiful — a more refined and mature version of Angela from My So Called Life, the character that made Danes famous. And, the connection I felt to her character — on, like, a molecular level — was enough to compel me to write this post. It had a serious effect on me.
Made me think about the connections I’ve made in my life. My wonderful husband, the kids we’ve created, our friends, families, even our cats (yeeesss!)….
And…my pinkberry. You KNEW I’d bring it up today. With my new, BELOVED-ALREADY, pinkberry — oh and TWITTER — I stay connected.
There’s so much isolation in our culture. People are lonelier and more isolated than ever before. But, at the same time, there’s this burgeoning internet community that accepts us all. It’s not about what we look like, or how much money we have, how old we are, or whatever. It’s all about our words. And, I don’t know about you, but it’s changed my life. I’ve never felt so connected and fulfilled and influenced in so many wonderful ways.
To thank you for this — for connecting with me (with your comments, emails, and even by just READING) — and because I’ve not another DEEP THOUGHT left in this tired brain o’ mine, I give you Minden AFTER HE FELL IN THE BATHTUB. Because we all know it’s THIS that you came for, and not the deep thoughts….

Wet tail….

Mama, I fell in the tub. WAHH.

Sheepish because fell in tub WAHHH. (AKA, BEST PICTURE OF MINDEN EVER TOOK!)

Must clean that WATER off self with my SALIVA….
Oh, can I just ask thee? What happened to Jamie Oliver? Inquiring blogger needs to know. He used to be a cute, dare-I-say hottish, young thing. Now he’s gone all organic and, like, PIONEER on us. His show bites (NO pun intended)….

NOT hott.



















Beck February 18th, 2008 at 7:25 am
I LOVED that movie! The book was really wonderful, too – I think you’ll really enjoy it. Have you read “The Pleasure of My Company” by Steve Martin? He’s a really good writer!
I’ve never liked Jamie Oliver, so I’m not surprised…
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LD February 18th, 2008 at 7:45 am
I didn’t watch the movie but i read the book (novella) and can understand where you’re coming from.
I agree with you when it comes to being isolated. We can be so connected technologically but still lonely.
I’m not the biggest Jamie Oliver fan!
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SciFi Dad February 18th, 2008 at 8:19 am
I must say, you make Shopgirl sound quite appealing. I think MTM and I will rent it sometime soon. (Is it on ROD?)
And, funnily enough, the munchkin and I slept together last night so MTM could sleep in this morning.
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Erika February 18th, 2008 at 8:39 am
Not to ignore your deep thoughts, because I DID love them, and I am going to rent that movie now. But Holy Carp. I have not seen Jamie Oliver in a long time. Grossness.
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Dyan February 18th, 2008 at 8:57 am
A friend of mine gave me the Shopgirl book years ago with the promise that I would pass it along to someone else when I was done. She described it as the last piece of chocolate in a box that you should really share because it had all the calories.
ali February 18th, 2008 at 9:39 am
i read shopgirl, and i liked it, it surprised me that steve martin wrote it, but i haven’t seen it, maybe i’ll pay per view it! if cheaty says it’s good, than it’s good. hey-i’m having a contest, sorry to throw that in here, but it’s my first one and noone is entering!
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LAVENDULA February 18th, 2008 at 10:14 am
aww mindens cute when hes soggy and embarrassed….i haven’t seen that movie but will check if its on VOD.people don’t usually like me in person i’ve never fit in anywhere and being able to connect with you even through my computer has been fun and something i look forward to doing….so a big hug to you haley and by the way i love jamie oliver and i kinda like how laid back heis getting with age…
ewe_are_here February 18th, 2008 at 10:37 am
Jamie Oliver has become extremely annoying. Which is sad, because his original message about the crappy food served in schools was spot on.
As for Shopgirl, I didn’t expect to like it as much as I did… the age factor between Martin and Danes kind of skeeved me out going in, but I actually found it to be an enjoyable movie.
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JavaChick February 18th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Your photos of Minden, along with the captions made me giggle. I can just picture it. Thanks for the entertaining post!
Oh, I liked Shopgirl too. I was impressed that Steve Martin also wrote it.
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FENICLE February 18th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
I was a total MY SO CALLED LIFE fan….so I’m thinking this looks like a good movie:)
I loved Claire Danes in The Family Stone. Did you see that?
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ali February 18th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
shopgirl is so old!! i can’t believe you haven’t seen it – it’s SO a movie i would have thought you’d have seen and LOVED. STeve Martin is a GREAT< great writer. he really GETS it.
i’ve always – and still do – enjoyed Jamie Oliver…but NEVER thought he was hot! ew!
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Karen MEG February 18th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
They have DVD’s at the library and I’ve taken Shopgirl out TWICE and NOT SEEN IT ONCE!!!! Something about having kids around and panicking about the $2/day late fee. So I must borrow it again and watch it this time.
Cute Minden. He does look quite sheepish, for a cat
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Kristen February 18th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
Lovely post Cheaty.
I will definitely have to check out that movie.
Oh. Those are the best pictures of Minden ever. Cutie kitty.
Susan Helene Gottfried February 18th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
I haven’t seen the movie yet, but I ADORED the book!
As for Minden… been there, had wet cats. I swear, trying to catch them to dry them off wasn’t worth the dry furniture!
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Maria February 18th, 2008 at 7:49 pm
Funny, flipped by Shop Girl last night too but opted to watch Marie Antoinette on TMN instead. It was just o.k, now wished I watched Shop Girl…
Hope you had a nice Family Day!
Di February 18th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
If you like reading about connections and if you want to read an amazing book, I recommend A Fine Balance. It’s a big book. It’s about India which I didn’t think I would like. But it is captivating.
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Redneck Mommy February 18th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
I have found amazing connections in the oddest places with the most unexpected people. Those are the connections I truly cherish.
And I loved Shop Girl.
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Kathryn February 18th, 2008 at 11:17 pm
I’ve been meaning to see Shopgirl for some time. Now I think I might read the book first and then see the movie.
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Mel February 19th, 2008 at 9:52 am
thanks for sharing Minden…
Teena in Toronto February 20th, 2008 at 12:08 am
I saw that “Shopgirl” was on the other night but was too busy to watch it. Now I’m sorry I missed it …
Minden, as always, is a cutie! My boys will stick their tales in my bath water too while I’m in there. Silly kitties!
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Heather February 20th, 2008 at 12:48 am
I really want to see Shopgirl. I love Steve Martin and have wanted to read the book for a while now, so I think I may just do that before I see the movie. Reading your post reminded me of this amazing movie I saw this summer. It’s called The Peaceful Warrior. You should rent it. It changes the way you look at life. I really can’t describe it beyond that, but it is phenomenal.
Chris February 22nd, 2008 at 9:46 pm
It’s strange – both Beth and I read the book and we ended up turning off the movie halfway though. We just weren’t digging it.
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