I didn’t take a lot of photos. I also didn’t take a lot of breaths. At one point, on the second night of the conference, I couldn’t hold back tears, and I ran up to the hotel room and cried. Yes. I did. But when I forced myself to lie down, pick up my novel and just relax, I felt better. (Awesome book, by the way.)
That’s when I realized I hadn’t taken a single break that day. While I may seem outgoing and (at times even) natural in social settings, inside I’m often anxious and tense. I’m really as shy as a turtle.
I need to make time to crawl into my shell and just collect myself for a bit — otherwise, I’m just all over the place. If you caught me JUST before I broke into tears, you would have thought me boring and spacey in a withdrawn sort of way. If you caught me AFTER the tears, you would have thought me just a weeee bit spacey and gullible in a Three’s Company‘s Chrissy sort of way….
Despite the social anxiety issssues, I had a great time. I partied HARD. And I haven’t done that in a long time. Those friends of mine, they dragged me out at a whopping 9pm for dinner and drinks, not at a quiet bar down the street from the conference hotel, but a longish cab ride away to the Lower East Side of NYC. The 15 of us (ahem) piled into an already PACKED bar in which there were men in plaid button-downs standing on the bar taking photos and swigging beers. Kind of like the gorj Miss Daniela Syrovy here in the green (with some seriously awesome and hilarious ladies — Joanne Acri, Theresa Albert and Emma Waverman [who's either yawning or showing off her FAB Martha-Stewart-party "ring" craft])….
…who stood up on a chair in her fab green dress and took this pic of all most of us….
Can you see the social anxiety on my (distorted) face? Hmm, maybe not, since by then I’d had a glass of wine (it doesn’t take much). Look at all the lovelies! Where to start? Let’s see, next to me, Corinne, Nadine, Rebecca, Brandie, Rebecca, Emma (sweet WILLER), Maureen, Cora, Lianne, and Tracy. The only person missing in the photo, if I’m not mistaken…, is Ms. GREENERS, who earlier that night did THIS….
Her fab keynote speech moved us all to tears…. Here’s a link to all the Voices of the Year keynotes, including Karen’s. LOVE!
Despite the short and very therapeutic cry, the conference was an amazing experience. I got to meet a lot of my online friends in person, and I got to hear some incredible, inspiring people speak, including “international activists” who risk their lives blogging and make a real difference…for all of us.
Another really rewarding and memorable part of the conference was meeting LINDSEYJAY and SANDYEL! They met each other through MY BLOG! They’ve both been commenting here since the dawn of Cheaty Monkey, pretty much, and there they were, ROOMIES in NYC. Can you say FAHKLEMPT! I need to get a picture of the three of us, HELLO? Picture, anyone? FAHKLEMPT.
[PLACE PICTURE OF LINDSEY, SANDYEL AND ME HERE]
I left the conference early, alas, because I had to get back to work Monday morning — and we drove to NYC. When I got into the car, I was greeted by a very-desperate-to-see-me THIS….
She covered me in kisses — like I HAVE NEVER. It was good to be back….
And I’m back! When I got to work this morning, I found this month’s issue of Today’s Parent on my desk. Look for a feature on my CELEBRITY BLOG on p. 22 and on the “What’s on the Web” page, and, again, my name in the masthead (much to my mother’s delight!). FUN! My spoofy PINK article on Celine Dion will occur in the October issue.
How was YOUR week?
Love! xo Haley-O
Credit: Photo of turtles by cygnus921.















































LAVANDULA said, August 9th, 2010 at 9:36 pm
oh haley that sounds so fun! and i am very anxious around people i don’t know crowds etc but you did good to take a break and then get back in it….xo
jodifur said, August 9th, 2010 at 9:37 pm
I just loved seeing you. Your such a joy.
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Corinne said, August 9th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
I was delighted to finally meet you! It was such a great weekend.
xo
karengreeners said, August 9th, 2010 at 9:55 pm
I already knew and loved you before NYC, so I also knew that with your charm, sense of humour and unflappable smile, you would do amazing. And you did. I had SO much fun with you – you know I peed a little bit in the cab, right?
I was unbelievably stoked to be at that table with those gals.
And yes, how amazing was it to get to know all those of those wonderful women – even though only my shoulder is in the pic, (which is fine, since you have glaringly illustrated how much better my words are than my pictures
Love this recap, love you.
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Rebecca said, August 9th, 2010 at 9:57 pm
You radiate so much love and warmth, Haley. It was such a pleasure to get to room with you. Thanks for the recap!
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Lindsey Jacobs said, August 9th, 2010 at 10:23 pm
Aaaaw smooches! It was so great to hug you like what, 3 times!!?? Awesome. You are toooooo cute woman. I wanted to put you in ma pocket. It was a great few days, although a whirlwind. Felt like time sped up and slowed down at the same time. Aaaah crazy NYC girls slumber party weekend!
For sure we shall hug again soon. xo
PS Yes, and thanks for the Sandy connect, she’s a whole lotta awesomeness herself!
Maureen said, August 10th, 2010 at 8:40 pm
What?! I would never have guessed that you felt that way. I loved meeting you in person and look forward to more fun in the future!
Gwen said, August 11th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
I loved getting to finally meet you. I think next year we need to go have some tea and really get a chance to talk.
Hugs to another shy girl.
Teena in Toronto said, August 11th, 2010 at 9:29 pm
Sounds like a fun time!
Betty White is too cute!
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A little personal – with thanks to Geneen Roth | Cheaty Monkey said, August 12th, 2010 at 9:59 pm
[...] When I eat poorly — really poorly — it MEANS I’M RESTRICTING MYSELF TOO MUCH. It means it’s time for a break. Time to crawl back into my shell and give myself permission to rest. [...]
Karen MEG said, August 13th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
Awwww Haley – I was thinking about you last weekend – I chose family time over BlogHer this year – but I have to admit that I was thinking a lot about BlogHer and what a great experience it was – especially for me hanging out with you the last day last year. Poo-ey for me – but so glad that you had a great time this year!!
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