Comments on: A Good Mother

By: ava

ava — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:09:54 +0000

…followed your childs rhythms and cues… sounds like a heck of a compliment to me! i think that is the sign of an unselfish and tuned in mom. i wouldnt get defensive- say ‘thank you for noticing my devotion to my kids.’

By: Goofball

Goofball — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 11:45:08 +0000

cute pictures
.-= Goofball´s last blog ..Evian Roller Babies =-.

By: erika

erika — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 02:01:20 +0000

Do whatever the hell you want. Schedules for babies are mainly to make parents’ lives easier. Some babies/toddlers — llike mine — demand a rigid routine, but yours obviously don’t. You ARE a damn good mother.
.-= erika´s last blog ..my kid is weird =-.

By: Dina

Dina — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:14:36 +0000

You are an awesome mom!
We never had a routine and still don’t. Some days are good, some are bad but we all love eachother madly. As long my kids are fed, clean, encouraged, supported, loved and HAPPY, then I’ve done my “job”.
The Rascal is sooo cute!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 12:15:52 +0000

so I am thinking… right….. I like structure I really do, but am not a drill sargent when it comes to rules, schedules are loose, but they exist, expectations are clear but deviation anticpated almost expected… there are days where life could mimicks the plan and others I rather sit home and do nothing…… but in my assessment people who follow rigid plans have kids who can’t think for themselves, they have to have a plan, they have to be told how to play, how to eat, how to think, how to take a crap….. kids need structure yes, but they also need freedom to create, to imagine, to find thier own paths that may in fact differ from our own… you have beautiful happy kids, who gives a crap about the rest…. you’re the mommy you make the rules!!!!

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 03:49:46 +0000

I think you are a great mother. I only know you through this glowing screen in front of me, but it’s obvious that you love those kids and you’ll do pretty much anything for them.

Right now I’m reading the book the Glass Castle. It kind of puts things into perspective. The woman in the book has a mother who puts herself before her kids all the time. And the kids still turn out okay, great really million dollar writers actually =)

Jenn
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..Where Am I? =-.

By: Lori L.

Lori L. — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:32:48 +0000

I do not and never have had routines for either of my boys. I sometimes wish that I did have routines in place for them but it just isn’t ‘me’. Some people are so critical though – it is annoying. I feel your pain.

By: Alicia

Alicia — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 19:37:15 +0000

What works for you and your children, works. Every family is different and I don't believe you can compare every child. We don't follow a strict schedule (especially naps) and I still have happy, healthy boys!! .-= Alicia´s last blog ..WS: Trip to FeilongShan =-.

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:26:56 +0000

how anyone can criticize another woman’s parenting (unless, her children are starving, cage living, dirty animals) is beyond me…especially a “friend”.

tell your “friend” to get out more and she’ll see all kinds of different kids from all kinds of different backgrounds and parenting beliefs and the kids are all pretty much the same.

i have scheduled very little for my two kids (except bedtime…gotta go to bed!) for activities, playtime or lessons. they play with dirt, sticks, toys, each other….my youngest will watch an anthill for 15 minutes.

if your kid tells you they love you, hugs you, is well fed and can communicate then you’re doing well as a parent and everyone who has posted is doing well as a parent (even for the furbabies!)

By: Laural

Laural — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 15:17:24 +0000

You know, I hate when people assume that having a schedule equals being a good mom.
When it comes to parenting, my schedule is a lot like yours, and I make no apologies. My kids are clean (though not bathed every night), they are well taken care of and they are loved.
I am amazed all the time by my kids.
You know, we have done all sorts of ‘crazy’ stuff with them – we have no qualms going on trips – whether it’s a day trip to buffalo or a week in Disney.
We go places and try stuff out, and if it doesn’t work so be it.
I’m the mom who lets my kid crack the eggs when we’re making cookies, and doesn’t stress that the house is still a mess at the end of the weekend because we were too busy visiting grandparents.
I’m often judged for that.
Or for the fact that I let my kindergartner skip karate class to sleep in sometimes.
But at the end of the day – that’s how I run my life. and, I’m crazy and silly, but I like myself. And I’m happy.
Schedules be damned.
And – I think you’re an amazing mom!
(off my soapbox now)
.-= Laural´s last blog ..Our Monorail Memories =-.