
She wears my (old) sunglasses at night….because she thinks they make her “see better”….
See, here’s the thing. For the monkey and I to coexist in harmony now that school is over, we have some SERIOUS work to do. Because she does it ALL DAY. WITH ME. And, with me only.
Let’s see…. She clings. She whines. She NEEDS. All day long. And, I finally recognized this today. I finally recognized what’s been WEARING ME RIGHT OUT every single day.
Look! Playing independently….

…YOU WOULD THINK. But, noooo. Apparently, playdough is a TEAM-ORIENTED activity. DUDE!?!
So, I set her up with the playdough, roll a few pancakes, make a few butterflies, horses and, of course, kitty cats. I put in my time. But, it’s not enough. I go to sit down at my computer to take a MUCH-NEEDED break with my twitter buds and maybe write a post or two, and I get yelled at: “MAMA, COME!” Excuse me? I’m right here. We are in the same teeny tiny living room. You are practically right beside me. And, why are you YELLING in this teeny tiny living room? I can hear you BREATHING.
Eventually, she releases me. Only to leave the playdough but a few seconds later to climb up on the couch beside me, stick a thumb in her mouth and claw at my clavicle (yes, I’m being serious).
She’s not like this with anyone else. With everyone else — teachers, it’sgrandma, even Josh-O — she’s a great independent player. Yet with me she CLINGS to my thighs, my shirt, my hands, my clavicle. Like a LEACH, like a, ermmm, newborn. How old is too old for baby sling???

Photo, with thanks, c/o Celebrity Baby Blog.
Noah Wyle’s daughter Auden (2.5 yo) is still in the sling…. And, Kate Hudson carried her daughter son Ryder HAIRCUT in a sling when he was this HUGE already….

Photo, with thanks, c/o Celebrity Baby Blog.
Ahhh, the monkey would LOVE it. Soooo close to clavicle….
Anyway, NOT HAPPENING. We’re talking through our issues instead. And, and, AND, I SIGNED US UP TO TAKE A DANCE CLASS…TOGETHER! Just the two of us! “I WILL LLLLLLOVE THAT!” she said when I told her about it. I’m thinking that spending that fun concentrated time together every week (just us) will get ME out of her system a little.
It’s a work in progress. We BOTH need to be happy if we’re going to spend SO MUCH time together this summer.
I know, in a few years I’ll be WISHING for a cuddle. I know. I SO know. I’m NOT forgetting to be grateful, and I am enjoying the little projects we do together….

Hmph. She’s a cheaty little monkey, that one…. I hope she’ll always covet my clavicle…. I just need a liiiiiiitle space now and then on these long hot summer days. Too much to ask?








Yvie said on June 27th, 2008 at 12:06 am
I don’t think I can manage to carry my son in a sling. I mean, he is very heavy now, I’d probably have osteoporosis now. Hahaha!
I love slings though, it looks so stylish. 
Yvies last blog post..Tangerine’s Lullaby’s entry for 6/27/08
Lindsey said on June 27th, 2008 at 12:24 am
Aaah. I have the same problem… but “Mommy come watch me pee!” Uh, no thanks!! I love when he plays by himself, usually involves something I’ll regret a bit later, like watering the garden (and his brother), washing the dishes in the sink (and the floor), making the grocery list (and drawing on the table). He always wants me to read him his stories at night, me to bathe him, wants to sit beside me at dinner, me me me. Poor Daddy sometimes! Luckily he always asks Daddy to play Lego. He’s much better than me, though I rock at the train track set-ups.
Love my sling (for the babe), it’s faded black, ripped and always has baby snot on it.
Her drawings are cute. She draws an octopus really well!
Haley-O said on June 27th, 2008 at 12:34 am
Ummm, that was me. I drew the octopus…
Ginny said on June 27th, 2008 at 6:02 am
Ahhh yes, I know this problem very well! It is a little frustrating isn’t it? We often have it here and you know what I’ve discovered? It’s when we are on the computers. See kids are selfish right? It’s not their fault, they don’t know any better, but it’s all about them and even if we’ve spent the last hour having fun with them, if they see us or at least one on the computer they turn to instant whine. I have noticed this a lot lately because their Dad spends a lot of time on the computer so I try to hang out with them and play but when I ‘take a break’ the whine comes on to Dad big time. It’s hard to balance because your ‘break’ involves not being with them and really all they want is your attention.
Luckily I can say that it gets better as they get older. Oh, they will still whine but because your two are so close in age they will go off and play together. Some weekend mornings we get very lucky and get almost an hour to read the paper and have coffee while the girlios play downstairs. Then when they do come seek us out we are ready to go you know? I’ve even been told to leave them alone while they play!! Crazy!
SciFi Dad said on June 27th, 2008 at 6:38 am
We have the same problem right now… our daughter is a lot more clingy to MTM recently. We’re not sure if it’s in anticipation of the new baby, or just a phase.
I will note that we used the sling well past her second birthday, but have stopped for a while now.
SciFi Dads last blog post..On Balance
chelle said on June 27th, 2008 at 7:10 am
I stopped wearing my daughter when she was about 2.5. I get the cling factor keep working on it, I witnessed a boy at 4.5 that COULD NOT even play at a playground with other children without his mommy right in there. I was like dude no way!
chelles last blog post..She Goes On and On
LD said on June 27th, 2008 at 7:57 am
Matt goes up and down on this.
But he doesn’t cling - he climbs. If I’m not playing with him he’ll just hop up on me no matter what I’m doing.
It drives me nuts!
PS I’ve never used a sling. I tried but I still need to find a good one that works for me
LDs last blog post..Noooooooobody!
Beck said on June 27th, 2008 at 8:01 am
That clinginess can be SO EXHAUSTING. The Baby is a very independent little cuss, likely because she’s our third but HER BROTHER!
I think if I was a celebrity and walking with my toddler, I might still keep them in a sling. I’m cautious.
Becks last blog post..Of Course That Was The After Picture!
Multi-tasking Mommy said on June 27th, 2008 at 8:02 am
DUDE!!! Playdough on the carpet, boy you are VERY brave, my dear!
We just did playdough yesterday as well–man oh man, the mess on the hardwood…I could hardly take it.
Multi-tasking Mommys last blog post..When I Grow Up…
Cathy Matsumoto said on June 27th, 2008 at 8:43 am
Hi Haley,
We met at indigo in yorkdale just before you had rascal!!
I’m grateful that you posted your thoughts on “summer time” and the amount of it that will be spent with your children. I am feeling the exact same way. It made me feel so much better. I feel like running away for a few months alone to go surfing somewhere(and obviously, I would never do such a thing but you know what I mean.).
My two (similar in age to yours) are awesome and exhausting at the same time and it’s such a bizzare duality. Humans are so complicated :-).
I agree with making it a priority to go on dates with your husband. Alan and I try to have a date at least once a month and sometimes I feel like it’s too much of an effort making arrangements, but once we are out at the restaurant (or wherever) I always ask “Why don’t we do this more often?!?”
Take Care,
Cathy
Erin said on June 27th, 2008 at 9:24 am
I hear ya! I am constantly begging mine to go play. They play when they have friends over. They play when older brother is here to play with. On normal days when it is me and them, they refuse to play without me.
If you find the magic cure for this please let me know:)
Dance class together sounds like fun.
Erins last blog post..Let’s go swimming 3
Lori said on June 27th, 2008 at 9:34 am
I can so relate to this post since I have 2 little people that rarely leave me alone. And there are moments each day that I just want my own space and time without someone touching me or talking to me.
As a mother of 5 now grown children, I speak from my heart when I say that you are right that there will come a day that you will miss all this “togetherness”. Now I am raising 2 grandchildren that are 3 years and almost 2 years and so I am back in the middle of “togetherness” and even though I know that this time with them is so short, some of our days can seem so damm long. They like my kids, when they were young, think I am the only one that can do certain things for or with them…they are all over me, constantly, and act horrified when I make them go play alone. Playing alone is good for kids and thats what I tell them…of course they don’t understand.
There will come a day that they will go through a period of not wanting all this “togetherness” with me.
Have fun at your dance class!
Loris last blog post..When children speak
ali said on June 27th, 2008 at 10:01 am
…and you draw a mighty fine octopus
oh, i know how you feel. i remember back to my stay at home mom days with a baby and a toddler. and it was EXACTLY how you describe. exactly. not having emily in school was disastrous! and oh-so-clingy and tiring. the good news is that it’s short-lived, since camp with help and school with CERTAINLY help!
alis last blog post..swiper no swiping, ali is naked, and the mouths of babes
mel said on June 27th, 2008 at 10:11 am
Can I be honest here…. I have been accused of not being a “doting” mother (by their father) and therefore I guess I never had any ‘cling ons’ or ‘will-nots’ as in will not go away…with 4 kids…each 2 years a part I kicked my birdies out of the nest early to get ready for the next one. And yah know what…I have 4 very secure kids. So moral of the story…tell her, you know she is a big girl and she can play by herself. I mean, you can tell her that you will color one thing on the picture but she has to do the rest. It tells her you have confidence in her ability to do it on her own. My FAV parenting book is called “CHILDREN THE CHALLENGE” it is an older book BUT I tell you it works like a charm. Its none of that lovey dovey kiss da boo boos type of reading. It is CONCRETE and it WORKS. Tried, Tested and True. Its a book that I have in the past given as a baby shower gift. Snotty aren’t I.
Mrs Mogul said on June 27th, 2008 at 10:16 am
I just got the peanut shell sling! I can’t wait to use it. I tried it on the toddler but he was too big of course.
Mrs Moguls last blog post..Anniversary and children stories: Example of how my mind works
LAVENDULA said on June 27th, 2008 at 10:46 am
stinkerbell is really whiny right now!and gosh i can’t even pee by myself.if i try going anywhere without her she whines and hangs off me.and only mummy can do anything for her.when she is bored she is doubly clingy.!child let me go go.
Renee said on June 27th, 2008 at 11:54 am
This too shall pass, but they do go threw this phase. She probably bugs you when you’re trying to talk on the phone too. Even my DD will come up while I’m on the phone with something so super important to tell me right then! But now I just look at her like “What do you THINK you are doing?” and she’ll say sorry and leave. Her important thing totally forgotten (was usually something stupid from TV that she thought was funny.) But the entire thing was the phone ringing reminded her that I wasn’t right there.
I just have to keep reminding myself, “It will pass. it will pass.” LOL!
Renees last blog post..Oh I’m so tired!!!
junctionmama said on June 27th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
it’s true, one day we will miss how clingy they used to be… i already miss when my little girl was a useless lump a few months ago…
but i totally get what you mean about needing your space - it’s weird how once you’re a mother, you’re filled with all these dichotomies, and guilt…
junctionmamas last blog post..Excuuuuuuse me?!
Helen said on June 27th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
I am over a month into summer vacation with my four year old and I have come up with a ‘in for a penny, out for a pound’ type of thing.
I give him 15 minutes of my time and then he has 45 minutes on his own. I even used a timer at first. I know, sounds crazy but it’s working for us!
So we do something like play dominoes or some kind of science experiment for a bit and then he goes off to play on his own. Sometimes I even get over an hour if he is really in to something!!!
Helens last blog post..To Be or Not To Be….Organized?!?!?
Kathryn said on June 27th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
Once the Rascal is old enough to play with her she won’t be so clingy anymore. I think. It helped my boys anyway.
Hang in there!
Kathryns last blog post..Summer At It’s Best
Cori said on June 27th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Aaaawwww, you’re such a good mommy, I throw the playdough out the back door and when they make a run for it I lock them out! LOL! No really, I do.
Coris last blog post..Do You Ever?
Bunny said on June 28th, 2008 at 11:47 am
My son is five and he’s still clingy. In fact….
So is my husband!
Bunnys last blog post..Ex….es, drinking and Shh….no names please
nichole said on June 29th, 2008 at 4:41 am
Love your blog’s look! Also thoroughly enjoyed reading. I’m a regular now. How do you make all your cutesies on the blog? (ie beautiful post divisions, strikeout on typing, cute post title font) See you on the blogs
BlondeBlogger said on June 29th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
Awww, she’s so precious! I am ducking because I know you probably don’t want to hear that, lol. Mine are all past the clingy stage and as much as it annoyed me then, I so miss it now.
Which is why I have my puppy who LOVES to be held and carried. I’m actually thinking of getting a sling for her if you can believe it (she’s 10 months old).
Drea said on June 29th, 2008 at 4:08 pm
Im realy big into babywearing and actually work for a big wrap company (cant put that info on the internet tho but id be glad to tell you in an email)
I think age 2 is my limit. I still wear Taite some and he is 18 mo.
My friend Lis still wears her 3 1/2 yr old… only when needed. she went to mt Rushmore and wearing her was just easier since it involved lots of climbing.
http://inthegettingthere.blogspot.com/2008/06/trip-diaries.html << theres a image of her wearing her daughter in a wrap
Oh and her lil girl is 40 lbs HAHA
Dreas last blog post..I’ll let the face do the talking
Goofball said on July 2nd, 2008 at 7:18 am
I love children and if you browse my blog, you’ll see that I post lots of pictures of my nieces and nephews and my friend’s childrens. I love to play with them and interact with them…but after a while I get tired of it and I need adult interaction and conversations, I need to sit down without little hands asking for my attention.
That part seems a very challenging part of being a mom to me.
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