Comments on: A Personal Response to a Troubling Comment

By: Mrs. Flinger

Mrs. Flinger — Thu, 26 Apr 2007 16:02:32 +0000

I’ve neglected writing about my anxiety and increasing depression late in pregnancy. Somehow I went from “I blog for me” to “I have people that read that might not “get” the feelings I want to write about.” So I haven’t.

That’s so wrong.

Write what you’re writing. Keep being honest. Some of us need to know we’re not the only ones and also that it’s OK to be yourself “out there” even if it’s on a website.

By: laughing mommy

laughing mommy — Wed, 25 Apr 2007 04:41:55 +0000

I came over from Mom’s Daily Dose. I just had to comment.

Sharing your story could help others, so please keep sharing it!

For instance, just reading this one post a lightbulb went off over my head. I had anxiety attacks so bad with my first pregnancy that I had to seek treatment from a psychologist (weekly office visits). I haven’t had a single anxiety attack since the pregnancy was over. I felt so alone. Pregnancy was really hard for me.

I’m going to read your archives, and probably cry, because I’ve probably found answers that I was looking for nearly four years ago.

Keep writing.

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 25 Apr 2007 00:05:29 +0000

I haven’t read any of your blog (I came here from Mom’s Daily Dose), but I just had to say that I totally get where you’re coming from. It absolutely infuriates me to hear the argument that, because some people have difficulty in conceiving, anyone who is lucky enough to get pregnant has no right to complain about their “lesser” ills. Well, IMO that is totally wrongheaded. Nobody has the right to tell anyone else that what they feel is not valid. I am sure that infertility is heartbreaking for those who have to deal with it, and I am very, very sorry for anyone who does. But what has that got to do with what you write about your own life? Why should it invalidate your feelings? It’s like saying to a kid that because there are children elsewhere in the world who are starving, they have no right to complain that they don’t like their dinner. It is intellectually dishonest and rude, and I am sorry you had to deal with it.

By: jodi

jodi — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 21:18:28 +0000

I left this comment on Mom’s daily dose which brought me here, but it seemed appropriate to leave it here as well.

I had a really tough pregnancy. And I hated being pregnant. I was on and off bedrest and hospitalized and just sick, a lot.

Someone told me they never heard of anyone hating being pregnant and the baby could hear me when I said that. Someone else said if I changed my attitude I would like being pregnant.

You know what, shut up. You feel how you feel and there is nothing you can do about it and you should not feel guilty.

By: Jilly O.

Jilly O. — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 00:54:39 +0000

Wow. I’m sorry to read that you received an email like this. It sucks because I know how much this must have hurt you. I hope you’re feeling ok.

By: denguy

denguy — Mon, 23 Apr 2007 14:10:09 +0000

High five, Cheaty, high five.

By: Maxx

Maxx — Sun, 22 Apr 2007 06:21:59 +0000

By: Dayn

Dayn — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 23:31:32 +0000

I’m sorry but I think that comment was RUDE RUDE RUDE… especially a mother of 4 should understand that every mom needs an outlet to release some of her complaints, concerns (good/bad) If YOUR blog works for you and keeps you grounded there is nothing wrong with a little venting…I have two babies back to back. I can’t imagine saying what she did to another mother. I thought we were supposed to stick together and have eachothers back.. Maybe she has some venting to do of her own…

By: Teena

Teena — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 19:53:33 +0000

What a harsh email from that woman. She doesn’t walk in your shoes so has no idea what you go through. But as others have said, I think you handled your response very professionally.

By: mamatulip

mamatulip — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 18:09:52 +0000

Haley, I’m impressed with the manner in which you responded to your commenter. You did it with grace and class, and I’m not sure others would have if they’d been on the receiving end. Bravo to you; this goes to show what kind of person you are.